PRAISE + LOVE
“So where do I start? When I came to Chinh, I was very depressed about where I was at in life and was constantly dealing with negative and self loathing thoughts of myself. I questioned my worth and what I was doing with my life. I decided to take a chance with Chinh, and after discussing the program together I knew I had made the right decision. At that time in my life, I had lots of anxiety about my new job and whether I was competent enough for it. I had a very big dependence on comparing my life and achievements and characteristics with everyone around me and truly set my self worth based on how I compared among my peers. I also had a lot of anxiety and fear when talking or approaching or even just being around people I “perceived” to be better than me or more successful or more powerful/high up on the ladder. This would include managers and administrators at work, attending physicians, rich successful doctor friends of my boyfriend, and other nurses who had accomplished so much more than myself.
Talking with Chinh has helped me rationalize these perceptions and feelings. They also helped me become aware that I was even doing them, which I especially did not realize the extent to which I compared myself to others. We broke things down together, and in the end I was able to cope and manage all these problems.
I was able to come up with specific examples at work where I did do the right thing, and began to trust myself and my judgement more regarding future problems that hadn’t happened yet. I wasn’t scared to go to work each day. We also examined my perception of what would happen if I talked with people I perceived to be “better” than me. I learned to take them off the pedestal I gave them, and to once again trust myself to say something intelligent. I also allowed myself the idea of messing up as being an acceptable outcome and for me to continue to practice and work on it, socializing with said people. I was even able to approach a booth at a conference I was attending and speak with a recruiter at a prestigious facility. Later on I eventually set up an interview and got the job.
As for the comparison problem, I became more aware of myself doing it, and remembered and believed what Chinh had said about how everyone and every situation is different, and that I don’t even know enough or have the complete picture of these other people in order to truly compare, and that I also am very different from anyone else. Hearing it put that way, I finally was able to change that paradigm I had used since I could remember, because it no longer made sense to compare myself to anyone.
Today, I am working two challenging jobs and not letting my anxiety or fears get the better of me. I am learning so much from them both. I feel less anxiety, almost none, when talking to anyone, because I have brought everyone down to a human level, and feel confident in my ability to converse and make conversation. I still make a point to continue to consciously practice talking to anyone I want to. I don’t notice myself comparing myself to other people. In general, I have been feeling very good and proud of myself day after day, and therefore have been able to trust my future self and it’s future decisions.
Chinh was there for me 110%, cheering me on and being excited and proud for me when I wouldn’t allow myself to feel good. She helped refer me to books that have helped me shape healthier mindsets for a better quality of life. She was the best decision I made for myself.”
“Before I met Coach Chinh, I would say that I was caught up in a classic case of “Quarter-Life Crisis”. A lack of direction and sense of purpose was weighing me down. Although I had a lot going for me; family, friends, a good paying job, a loving relationship there was a part of me that was filled with fear. Overwhelming fear that I was not living the life I was meant to live. Fear that I was not using my innate skills to contribute to this world. This internal conflict left me in a huge rut. I went through a whirlwind of overwhelming emotions; disappointment, confusion, and frustration. Although, I would count my blessings on a daily basis I knew something had to change. I was ready for a MAJOR change and I am very thankful that Coach Chinh was there to provide guidance, structure and support.
Coach Chinh walked me through all of my doubts and fear when it came to choosing a new career that really fit me. She helped me uncover what my core priorities were and more importantly how I would feel once I lived by those priorities. She also helped me develop time management and stress management skills to ensure that I would stay on track as I attacked my goals/fears head on.
She is an uplifting and inspiring coach that truly practices what she preaches. Her program helped me, help myself out of my own self-inflicted rut. Since completing the program I feel more empowered and excited about pursuing my passions and doing purposeful work. I have learned that fears and obstacles are a part of life, but once you develop the skills and confidence to tackle them you are living life on a whole new level.”
Wow, I’m so glad I found your articles, videos and page today! Chinh I wish there was more people in the world like you. I think the positive messages that you share are amazing. Please always find a way to expand this. – Zoe L.
Your energy is healthy & pure and I couldn’t agree more. -Eoin N.
Thank you Coach Chinh for daring me to step out in faith and ride the wave of the universe! -Johnetta C.