Sometimes my articles hit a nerve, like my last blog about upgrading your dreams. The recurring theme I kept hearing, from emails and also from the ladies in my ‘What to do when you’re new to biz’ training program, is this: we are ALLOWING others to bring down our dreams, beliefs, and ultimately discourage us from following our calling.
“Don’t let people who know NOTHING about your dreams discourage and bring you down!” [Tweet this!]
This is tragic and it breaks my heart people! We are friggin’ trailblazers with an incredible mission to create badass lives for ourselves while changing the world, so today’s article is about staying on your path despite all the negativity around you!
The thing you must understand when it comes to following your big, beautiful dream is this: you will receive a LOT of pushback. Ninety percent of the world will think you’re slightly NUTS, will question your beliefs, your actions, and even try to CONVINCE you to stick to your regular (i.e. boring & safe) day job and settle for less.
Why? Because YOU following your true path threatens them. It threatens their security, their own sense of comfort, and it causes them to wonder why the hell aren’t THEY listening to their inner voice too.
But YOU have. You are the minority that has heard your soul whisper: You are worth more, you can do more, and you ARE more. You have found the courage to not just listen to your inner nudge, but also take BOLD action.
So you mustn’t let those naysayers, pessimists, and party poopers bring you down. Because this is YOUR dream and YOUR life you’re living, not theirs.
“When we don’t follow our dreams and live our passions, we are cutting out a piece of our souls.” [Tweet this!]
So let’s stop committing ‘dream suicide’ because we’re listening to what others tells us we can or can’t do!
♦ Recognize the folks who are holding you back, in big or small ways. These are the people who plant seeds of doubt in your head without you (and often THEM) knowing it. What happens when you share your idea or dream with them? Do they get super excited, are 200% supportive, and tell you, “You can totally do that! You go, that sounds amazing!” Or do they say things like, “Have you thought this through? What if you do it and you’re miserable? What’s Plan B?” Do they laugh sarcastically and say, “good luck with that” when you say you want to travel around the world on a boat for a year?
People will often ask you questions under the guise of helping you think of ALL the things that could go wrong. You know what, F*CK that! When you are fully committed to your big dream, you don’t think about what could go WRONG. You think about what could go RIGHT. Am I right??? This is the essence of “positive thinking”. If you start a venture thinking about all the things that could go wrong AND worry that it’ll fail, guess what, you just guaranteed its doom.
“It’s your dream; you don’t need a friggin’ Plan B!” [Tweet this!]
♦ Now, get rid of them. No, seriously. As a matter of fact, I give you permission to ditch them. Okay okay, I know it’s easier said than done. Sometimes it’s difficult to let certain people go, especially if they are your family, close friends, or significant other. That’s why I wrote a whole article about it here. Ultimately, there’s no need for anger, blame, or resentment. It’s okay if they’re not on the same page as you when it comes to understanding or believing in your dreams. Just release them gradually and with love.
Finding this difficult to do? Then think of it this way: you basically have 2 choices.
Choice A. You listen to everybody else but yourself. You become fearful, doubt yourself, give up on your dreams, and end up being an efffin miserable, hot mess.
Choice B. You maintain your independent thinking, be fiercely committed to yourself and your dream, and blaze your own goddamn trail until you make it happen for yourself. You become fulfilled, joyous, and ecstatically happy because you’re so proud of yourself for not being afraid to go after your dreams despite all the resistance you’ve encountered along the way. You end up living happily ever after.
Which would you choose?
♦ Stop caring what other people think and seeking their approval. I get it. Who doesn’t love praise and admiration, especially when it comes from our families? Their opinion is important to you. BUT, people’s opinions of ourselves can only carry us so far. It’s not as important as your own opinion of yourself. It’s like you can get hit on by guys (or girls) all day long but if at the end of the day you’re laying in bed pinching all the “fatty” parts of your body and feeling miersable, well, you still won’t be happy in your own skin. So it’s nice when people praise us, but it doesn’t do much good if we are beating ourselves up behind closed doors.
♦ Make some new, kick ass friends! Surround yourself with people who are also kicking butt in their lives and who not afraid to go after their dreams!
♦ Be committed to yourself and know that you ARE worth it. And just because others don’t have the courage to follow their dreams, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a BADASS life! When things start getting tough and your resolve begins to weaken (and you let those toxic folks creep through the back door of your life), you must remember this commitment you have to yourself, your calling, and ultimately your happiness. It’s your friggin life we’re talking about here! Who else will make it happen beside yourself?
Honey, you are TRULY amazing. Unique. Talented. EXTRAORDINARY.
And it’s time you showed the world.
“Life is too short to live with regrets and what if’s. Be unconventional and blaze your own friggin’ trail!” [Tweet this!]
This week’s badass challenge: What’s one dream or goal that you’ve held back on because of what people have said to you in the past?
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